왜 보수는 권력을 잡고 놓치 않으려 악랄하고 꼼꼼하게 항거하고 흔들고 집요하게 물고 넘어지는데 왜 당신은 선비인척, 착한 척, 선한 척 해야 하는 가? 좋은 게 좋은거다? bias되지 않는 communication을 위해서는 "의도"에 대해 생각하지 않는 거다. 의도가 선하든 악하든 간에... 의도가 선하다하고 생각하면 중심을 잃고 상대방의 주장에 휘말리게 된다. 의도가 악하다고 생각하면 선입견을 갖고 상대방의 주장을 받아들이지 못하게 된다. ..... 상대방의 주장이 내게 어떤 영향을 주는지, 공동체에 어떤 영향을 주는지 판단할 자신이 없다면 그냥 악렬한 자가 권력을 휘두를때 아무말 없이 순종하고 따르던가. 불의에는 분루를 보이는 것이 사람이다. 또 하나의 세월호 사건 처럼 가만히 있으라고 가만히 있다가 죽을 것인가!
물론, 효과적인 경청은 상대방의 의도 또한 알아차리는 것이다.하지만 말에서 의도를 파악하기란 쉽지 않다. 그 말한 사람의 배경, 최근 관심사항, 인적 네트워크를 다 파악하지 않으면 그 사람의 "진짜" 의도가 보이지 않는다. 즉 말 자체에서 "선한 의도"를 찾는 방식은 절대 효과적인 경청이 아니다. 사람을 통찰해야 한다. 말하고 있는 그 사람을. 안희정의 경청은 사람을 보지 않고 "말"만 선한의도로 듣고 있다. 이러면 줏대가 없어지게 된다.
Tuesday 21 February 2017
Friday 30 January 2015
Saturday 1 March 2014
9 habits of mentally strong people
My iPad is passed away thanks to Z4's folding roof. I didn't aware of my bag is behind the car seat.
Too sad....but I should.... let her go.
9 habits of mentally strong people
Some people are able to overcome obstacles, while others crumble at life’s daily challenges and frustrations. It all depends on mental strength.
“In a world that we don’t control, tolerance is obviously an asset,” Ryan Holiday, author of the forthcoming book “The Obstacle Is the Way,” was quoted as saying.
It is a simple truth that the ability to cope with difficult emotions and situations is a significant predictor of our success and happiness, the U.S. news website Huffington Post stated.
To become a capable individual who turns any obstacle into a source of growth and opportunity, you may want to take note of the characteristics of mentally strong people.
Here are the nine habits and practices of mentally strong people revealed by the Huffington Post on Feb. 18.
1. They see things objectively
Shakespeare’s famous line read, “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” The way we perceive a situation has a tremendous power to either help or harm us. Look at things objectively to overcome a challenge.
2. They let go of entitlement
Thinking that we deserve to get what we want all the time, namely, having an attitude of entitlement, can make it more difficult to cope with hardships. Mentally strong people recognize that their entire life plans, and life itself, could be derailed at any moment. They don’t waste time complaining about their destiny when things go wrong.
3. They keep an even keel
Mental strength is not about always being happy. It is more about “keeping an even keel at any and all times,” says Holiday. Emotional stability and the ability to stay cool is an asset when handling challenging situations.
4. They don’t aspire to be happy all the time
Preoccupation with happiness can lead to unhappiness. People who are strong mentality do not avoid negative emotions. Accepting both positive and negative emotions and letting them coexist is a key component of resiliency.
5. They are realistic optimists
Mentally tough people have the habit of rising after they fall instead of getting upset, feeling hopeless and giving up in the face of obstacles. They tend to be “realistic optimists” by having the hopefulness of optimists and the clarity of pessimists.
6. They live in the present moment
Being present -- rather than dwelling on the past or anticipating the future -- allows people to see things as they are. The mentally strong tend to have a mindful and attentive way of engaging with the world. The science also proves that mindfulness can boost brain power, stabilize emotion and reduce stress and anxiety.
7. They are persistent in the pursuit of their goals
One of the fundamental qualities of resilient people is perseverance, or as Angela Lee Duckworth puts it, grit. “Grit is passion for very long-term goals. Grit is having stamina. Grit is sticking with your future,” she said, citing the results of her study.
8. They know when it is time to let go
Mentally strong people have no trouble letting things go. Only actions can be controlled, not the results of those actions. Accepting this fact allows us to yield to the things that are beyond our power. Change what we can control, but accept what we cannot control, and know the difference between the two.
9. They love their lives
The last key to being mentally tough is to be grateful and appreciative of obstacles. Turns and twists are life itself. Find joy in embracing the things that happen to you. May you always remember that obstacles in the path are not obstacles, they ARE the path, according to the author Jane Lotter.
Too sad....but I should.... let her go.
9 habits of mentally strong people
Some people are able to overcome obstacles, while others crumble at life’s daily challenges and frustrations. It all depends on mental strength.
“In a world that we don’t control, tolerance is obviously an asset,” Ryan Holiday, author of the forthcoming book “The Obstacle Is the Way,” was quoted as saying.
It is a simple truth that the ability to cope with difficult emotions and situations is a significant predictor of our success and happiness, the U.S. news website Huffington Post stated.
To become a capable individual who turns any obstacle into a source of growth and opportunity, you may want to take note of the characteristics of mentally strong people.
Here are the nine habits and practices of mentally strong people revealed by the Huffington Post on Feb. 18.
1. They see things objectively
Shakespeare’s famous line read, “There is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.” The way we perceive a situation has a tremendous power to either help or harm us. Look at things objectively to overcome a challenge.
2. They let go of entitlement
Thinking that we deserve to get what we want all the time, namely, having an attitude of entitlement, can make it more difficult to cope with hardships. Mentally strong people recognize that their entire life plans, and life itself, could be derailed at any moment. They don’t waste time complaining about their destiny when things go wrong.
3. They keep an even keel
Mental strength is not about always being happy. It is more about “keeping an even keel at any and all times,” says Holiday. Emotional stability and the ability to stay cool is an asset when handling challenging situations.
4. They don’t aspire to be happy all the time
Preoccupation with happiness can lead to unhappiness. People who are strong mentality do not avoid negative emotions. Accepting both positive and negative emotions and letting them coexist is a key component of resiliency.
5. They are realistic optimists
Mentally tough people have the habit of rising after they fall instead of getting upset, feeling hopeless and giving up in the face of obstacles. They tend to be “realistic optimists” by having the hopefulness of optimists and the clarity of pessimists.
6. They live in the present moment
Being present -- rather than dwelling on the past or anticipating the future -- allows people to see things as they are. The mentally strong tend to have a mindful and attentive way of engaging with the world. The science also proves that mindfulness can boost brain power, stabilize emotion and reduce stress and anxiety.
7. They are persistent in the pursuit of their goals
One of the fundamental qualities of resilient people is perseverance, or as Angela Lee Duckworth puts it, grit. “Grit is passion for very long-term goals. Grit is having stamina. Grit is sticking with your future,” she said, citing the results of her study.
8. They know when it is time to let go
Mentally strong people have no trouble letting things go. Only actions can be controlled, not the results of those actions. Accepting this fact allows us to yield to the things that are beyond our power. Change what we can control, but accept what we cannot control, and know the difference between the two.
9. They love their lives
The last key to being mentally tough is to be grateful and appreciative of obstacles. Turns and twists are life itself. Find joy in embracing the things that happen to you. May you always remember that obstacles in the path are not obstacles, they ARE the path, according to the author Jane Lotter.
Monday 24 February 2014
Want to live like this poem
Success( Ralph Waldo Emerson)
To laugh often and much;
To win the respect of intelligent people
and the affection of children;
To earn the appreciation of honest critics
and endure the betrayal of false friends;
To appreciate beauty,
to find the best in others;
To leave the world a bit better,
whether by a healthy child,
a garden patch or a redeemed social condition;
To know even one life has breathed easier
because you have lived.
This is to have succeeded.
To laugh often and much;
To win the respect of intelligent people
and the affection of children;
To earn the appreciation of honest critics
and endure the betrayal of false friends;
To appreciate beauty,
to find the best in others;
To leave the world a bit better,
whether by a healthy child,
a garden patch or a redeemed social condition;
To know even one life has breathed easier
because you have lived.
This is to have succeeded.
Tuesday 4 February 2014
10 years anniversary of Facebook - Mark Zuckerberg
Today is Facebook's 10th anniversary.
It's been an amazing journey so far, and I'm so grateful to be a part of it. It's rare to be able to touch so many people's lives, and I try to remind myself to make the most of every day and have the biggest impact I can.
People often ask if I always knew that Facebook would become what it is today. No way.
I remember getting pizza with my friends one night in college shortly after opening Facebook. I told them I was excited to help connect our school community, but one day someone needed to connect the whole world.
I always thought this was important -- giving people the power to share and stay connected, empowering people to build their own communities themselves.
When I reflect on the last 10 years, one question I ask myself is: why were we the ones to build this? We were just students. We had way fewer resources than big companies. If they had focused on this problem, they could have done it.
The only answer I can think of is: we just cared more.
While some doubted that connecting the world was actually important, we were building. While others doubted that this would be sustainable, you were forming lasting connections.
We just cared more about connecting the world than anyone else. And we still do today.
That's why I'm even more excited about the next ten years than the last. The first ten years were about bootstrapping this network. Now we have the resources to help people across the world solve even bigger and more important problems.
Today, only one-third of the world's population has access to the internet. In the next decade, we have the opportunity and the responsibility to connect the other two-thirds.
Today, social networks are mostly about sharing moments. In the next decade, they'll also help you answer questions and solve complex problems.
Today, we have only a few ways to share our experiences. In the next decade, technology will enable us to create many more ways to capture and communicate new kinds of experiences.
It's been amazing to see how all of you have used our tools to build a real community. You've shared the happy moments and the painful ones. You've started new families, and kept spread out families connected. You've created new services and built small businesses. You've helped each other in so many ways.
I'm so grateful to be able to help build these tools for you. I feel a deep responsibility to make the most of my time here and serve you the best I can.
Thank you for letting me be a part of this journey.
It's been an amazing journey so far, and I'm so grateful to be a part of it. It's rare to be able to touch so many people's lives, and I try to remind myself to make the most of every day and have the biggest impact I can.
People often ask if I always knew that Facebook would become what it is today. No way.
I remember getting pizza with my friends one night in college shortly after opening Facebook. I told them I was excited to help connect our school community, but one day someone needed to connect the whole world.
I always thought this was important -- giving people the power to share and stay connected, empowering people to build their own communities themselves.
When I reflect on the last 10 years, one question I ask myself is: why were we the ones to build this? We were just students. We had way fewer resources than big companies. If they had focused on this problem, they could have done it.
The only answer I can think of is: we just cared more.
While some doubted that connecting the world was actually important, we were building. While others doubted that this would be sustainable, you were forming lasting connections.
We just cared more about connecting the world than anyone else. And we still do today.
That's why I'm even more excited about the next ten years than the last. The first ten years were about bootstrapping this network. Now we have the resources to help people across the world solve even bigger and more important problems.
Today, only one-third of the world's population has access to the internet. In the next decade, we have the opportunity and the responsibility to connect the other two-thirds.
Today, social networks are mostly about sharing moments. In the next decade, they'll also help you answer questions and solve complex problems.
Today, we have only a few ways to share our experiences. In the next decade, technology will enable us to create many more ways to capture and communicate new kinds of experiences.
It's been amazing to see how all of you have used our tools to build a real community. You've shared the happy moments and the painful ones. You've started new families, and kept spread out families connected. You've created new services and built small businesses. You've helped each other in so many ways.
I'm so grateful to be able to help build these tools for you. I feel a deep responsibility to make the most of my time here and serve you the best I can.
Thank you for letting me be a part of this journey.
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