The Village Theory

The village theory in “ The 80/20 Principle: The Secret to Success by Achieving More with Less” by Richard Koch

Anthropologists stress that the number of exhilarating and important personal relationships that people can establish is limited. Apparently, the common pattern of people in any society is to have two important childhood friends, two significant adult friends, and two doctors. Typically, there are two powerful sexual partners who eclipse the others. Most commonly, you fall in love only once, and there is one member of your family whom you love above all others. The number of significant personal relationships is remarkably similar for everyone, regardless of their location, sophistication or culture. This had led to the anthropologists’ "village theory". In an African village, all these relationships happen within a few hundred meters and are often formed within a short-period of time. For us, these relationships may be spread all over the planet and over a whole lifetime. They nonetheless constitute a village which we each have in our heads, and once these slots are filled, they're filled forever.

그래서 10여명 정도의 인간관계가 내 마음에 살고 있고, 한번 채워진 자리는 절대 다른 이로 대처될수가 없다는 거다.

이러한 마을이론과 더불어, 나는 위로 존경할 수 있는 선배 또는 웃어른을 3명, 아래로 애정으로 이끌수 있는 후배 또는 자식을 3명, 그리고 나와함께 삶을 함께 나누는 관계를 3명 맺으리라 생각해 왔다.
가족중에 가장 사랑하는 어머니의 자리와 ...이제는 대처할 수 없는 첫사랑의 빈자리를 제외하고...

이제....앞으로의 10 여명의 사도를 채워나가고 싶다.