Recall from 80/20 principle , the village theory

From Chapter 12,  The 80/20 Principle: The Secret to Success by Achieving More with Less” by Richard Koch

“Apparently, the common pattern of people in any society is to have two important childhood friends, two significant adult friends and two doctors. Typically, there are two powerful sexual partners who eclipse the others. Most commonly, you fall in love only once and there is one member of your family whom you love above all others. The number of significant personal relationships is remarkably similar for everyone, regardless of their location, sophistication or culture. This has led to the anthropologists’ ‘village theory’. In an African village, all these relationships happen within a few hundred meters and are often formed within a short period of time. For us, these relationships may be spread all over the planet and over a whole lifetime. They nonetheless, constitute a village which we each have in our heads. And once these slots are filled, they’re filled forever. The anthropologists say that if you have too much experience, too early, you exhaust your capacity for further deep relationships. This may explain the superficiality often observed in those whose profession or circumstances force them to have a great number of relationships, such as salespeople, prostitutes or those who move house very frequently.”

For This reason we should be careful in choosing our relationships and try to fill these slots with the most valuable people we can find and not rush to fill them.