Saturday 30 July 2011

Don't criticize, condemn or complain.

I think it is funny that how people are so easy to judge and point out other people's flaws. However, if the people in the world focused more on themselves rather than judging people or worrying about what everyone else is doing, then things would be much different, I believe.

In the book "How to win friends & influence people", there is the1st principle Dale Carnegie addressed, which is, "Don't criticize, condemn or complain".

Critisisms are useless, because it could put the person against you and then make the person trying to make excuses to defense himself or herself against what he or she was told.
Condemning is risky, because it would hurt the person's pride and damage one's importance or contribution in the world as a human being and finally would lead to resentment. (I would feel strong resentment and deeply condemn the person if someone would condemn me.)
Complaints cannot solve issues and are not helpful to improve or progress, either.

If you are asked to evaluate someone else in your company or from your friends,
Do not criticize, condemn or complain.

Let's make things better!